Written in the Stars review

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I recently read Written in the Stars by Aisha Saeed for Ramadan Readathon and it was one of the most emotional books I ever read. This book is about forced marriages that unfortunately can still happen especially within the south Asian community. The family and main character in this book are Pakistani but living in America. This does contain some spoilers.

The story begins where her parents find out that she has secretly been going out with a boy called Saif and decide to take her and her brother to Pakistan to see their family in Pakistan. Naila thinks it’s just a holiday but really it’s so they can get her married.

We follow Naila through her story and how her family force her to get married and the life she is forced to live. Her story ends when she is safely back in America but in reality this may not happen to everyone and some may spend the rest of their lives suffering.

She is drugged and locked in a room, unable to see anyone and then after she is married she lives in a little village with her in laws where she is unable to study or speak to anyone outside and her mother and sister in law try to control and dictate what she can and cannot do.

This story was so heart wrenching, but it’s a much needed story as it helps to raise awareness of the situation that these young girls and boys face. The reason which was repeatedly told to Naila as to why they were doing this to her was that it’s because they know what’s best for her and that she should have thought about the family honour.

Thankfully it is not as common as it was but it still exists, there are still people who believe they have the right to force their children to marry who they choose, by whatever means necessary and that women do not need to receive an education as their purpose in life is to look after the home and children.

Growing up I had heard of girls that are forced to get married but I never knew what they went through, after reading Nailas story it is even more heart wrenching thinking about it.

This story showed how it not only tore apart Nailas life but also affected her whole family and Saif and his family too. It did not bring back Nailas “family honour” instead it permanently damaged Nailas relationship with her parents.

I would definitely recommend everyone to read this book as it has some much needed insight into what it is like for someone who has been forced to get married and raise awareness for this issue.

I do also want to point out that although this does happen it is not the norm for every Pakistani girl. The majority are not forced into marriage and are able to pursue education and build careers. To be independent, I am Pakistani and in my house education is far more important than getting married and I know this is the same for my friends too.

Rating: 4.5/5

Also I just want to clarify that arranged marriages and forced marriages are not the same thing. An arranged marriage is where the bride and groom meet on several occasions and happily consent to the marriage. A forced marriage is where often the bride is given no choice and may even be drugged or threatened with her life to keep her docile to ensure she signs the marriage papers.

For The Love Of Reading

So today I want to share with all of you something that I love and that is, reading! People who know me, know just how passionate I am about reading and some of my most difficult shopping decisions are about what book I should buy. I’ve been reading since I was a child, I have read countless number of books over the years and until now my favourite hobby and way to relax is to read a good book.

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This is one of my several bookcases 🙂

I will carry a book with me everywhere and I if I had the time I can finish a whole book in a day. Books and reading is a huge part of my life, I honestly can’t imagine not reading. When I am super busy I barely get to read and I miss it so much I will stay up a it later than usual just so I can read, even if it’s only a few chapters. Once I’m hooked on a book I can barely put it down and I will go through a huge range of emotions. I feel the sadness, anger, pain, heartbreak, happiness, joy, love that the characters feel. And to me that’s a sign of a really good book!

I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading, how much sooner one tires of any thing than of a good book. – Jane Austen

Many people I know just don’t like to read they haven’t picked up a single book since they left school. But for me reading is something I could never give up completely and I think it’s because it’s so instilled within me. My whole family are avid readers. My parents and all my sisters, my parents house has books piled up high in every single room, so much so, that we’ve had to put books in our attic to make more space!

It was my parents that first got me into reading, they would take us to the library almost every Saturday as kids. It was there that I first discovered my love for reading. I still remember the books I read that got me into reading, The famous five series and The secret seven series by Enid Blyton. I still love these books today. But the books that really made me fall in love with reading is the Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling.

I do believe something very magical can happen when you read a good book. – J.K. Rowling

I literally grew up with Harry, Ron and Hermione and I related to them so much. I still remember that I insisted that my dad take me to Asda at midnight to get the 5th book as it was released. I just had to have it the same day and I read it all the same day. Even now I still consider it to be one of my all time favourite series. I love reading YA fantasy books, that feeling of being transported into a whole different world and the epic adventure you go on…ahhh I just can’t get enough! I have a “to read” pile that never ends! There’s just so many good books being released every month!

You can’t get a cup of tea big enough or a book long enough to suit me. – C.S. Lewis

As a teenager I met others who loved reading as much as I did and we instantly became friends. When book nerds unite we can literally talk about books for hours, gush more like. Most of the friends I made through a mutual love of reading eventually became my best friends and we will still talk for ages about books we’ve read.

But it’s not only fiction that I love, I learnt a lot about Islam through reading initially. And even now I use these resources to develop my understanding of Islam. I mean after all the first word revealed in the Quran was Read.

So this leads me onto something else I want to share and that is that not only is reading a great way to relax but there are so many benefits of reading! Something which I hope to share with you soon.

If there are any readers out there do comment below! It’s always lovely to speak to fellow book nerds!

Book nerd and proud! 🙂