A parents Dua

We often hear about Maryam the mother of Isa (as) and imam Bukhari. We are told about what amazing people they were and about their love for the deen. Yet often the people who are overlooked are their mothers. 
When the mother of Maryam found out she was going to have a child, due to her gratitude to Allah vowed she would dedicate her child to the service of Allah. And even when she gave birth to a girl and not a boy as she had expected she still did not despair, her daughter was taken in by the pious people and grew up to be one of the best women to walk this earth. Her mother had ensured that she had a righteous upbringing from even before she was born. Her mothers dua and worship helped ensure that Maryam (as) would grow up to be a rightous women worshipping Allah.
The mother of imam Bukhari had to raise her son as a single parent as her husband passed away early in his childhood. While imam Bukhari was still young he lost his eyesight. His mother did not lose hope in Allah and made constant dua day and night. Due to her worship, miraculously his eyesight was restored. He then grew up to collect and write the most authentic book of hadiths which is still used today. Had his eyesight not been restored it would have made it much more difficult if not impossible for him to complete the sahih al-Bukhari.
While reflecting on this I realised something very important. Not only is it important for the parents to raise the child in a good and righteous manner but also that making dua for their child and the parent being rightous can have a major impact on their lives. We can see just how big of an impact the duas of their mothers had. We should pray with conviction, expecting Allah to answer our dua and we shouldn’t despair if our duas are not answered immediately, Allah always knows what is best for us.

The Prophet saw said: “The invocation of anyone of you is granted (by Allah) if he does not show impatience (by saying, “I invoked Allah but my request has not been granted”)” Narrated by Bukhari. 

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Do we love Eid?

So as christmas holidays have just ended, i’ve been thinking about why children are so in love with christmas. This also affects muslim children as well and sometimes i’ve seen that they actually like christmas more than eid!
Some of the many reasons which I have found is the fact that the preperations for christmas are so big and so exciting that the kids cant wait for christmas to arrive. There’s presents all wrapped up waiting for them, there’s parties and decorations, stories and christmas activities. After all this it’s no wonder children love christmas time. This excitement, this love that our children have should be for Eid not christmas. So why is it that this isn’t so prevalent in our children?

Some of the reasons I have found is that many children don’t even know why we celebrate Eid and its not exciting for them. I know when i was young i found Eid quite boring. So what can we do to change this? How can we make Eid more exciting to our younger siblings or our children?

Well some of the things i’ve started to do with my younger sisters and brother has helped to make Eid so much more exciting and build a love for Eid, and i thought i would share it with everyone to help you all too:
1. So before Eid arrives i share stories and explain why we celebrate Eid. 
2. The night before Eid we all help put decorations up, some which we have made together at home and some store bought banners. A good place to look for decorations is www.muslimstickers.com
3. On Eid day we put on a show for the adults which we have prepared beforehand. We have quran recitation, Eid poems and even a short play. This not only gets the kids involved but also the adults.
4. We also make an eid countdown calender and do other activities such as reading a story and then making a model. For example if we read about how the kabah was built we then would get cardboard, paint, colours etc and build the kabah. Children love getting hands on and they are more likely to remember the story.
5. Presents! Children love presents! When i was young i would be given money and i never felt the same excitement as opening a present. My sisters and brother love coming home from eid salah to find presents waiting for them. They can’t wait to open them! This builds love between the family.
So these are things that i do to make Eid more exciting for my younger siblings, this in turn makes them less excited about christmas because they have had their excitement at Eid. I hope these are helpful and i’m sure there are many other things to do to make Eid more exciting so that the kids don’t feel like they need to celebrate christmas.