So in this post I’m going to share what we learnt about the next disease of the heart: kibr.
Kibr is the Arabic word for pride or arrogance, when someone considers themselves superior to others.
The prophet (saw) defined kibr in this narration: “No one will enter paradise who has an atoms of pride in his heart.” A man said: “What if a man likes his clothes to look good and his shoes to look good?” He said, “Allah is beautiful and loves beauty. Pride means denying the truth and looking down on people.” [Muslim]
Allah describes in many places in the Quran how much Allah detests pride and the consequences of having pride in your heart.
“I will turn away from my signs those who are arrogant upon the earth…” Quran (7:146)
“…Thus does God seal over every heart (belonging to) an arrogant tyrant. Quran” (40:35)
“Indeed He, does not love the arrogant.” Quran (16:25)
These are just some of the places that Allah speaks about how displeased he is with those who have pride in their hearts. These ayahs show that Allah will not allow someone with pride to have understanding of the Quran and He will seal their hearts from the light of emaan.
The types of Pride
There are 2 types of pride:
1) Having pride and arrogance in accepting the truth in the oneness of Allah and Islam. So this person rejects Allah, the one who created him.
2) This is the pride people have towards other people. They think they are better than others and look down on them, whether it’s in regards to deen or dunya.
The causes of Pride
There are many reasons why someone may have pride some of which are:
1) Knowledge: People of knowledge can fall into this sin as they may be admired for their knowledge and start looking down on those who don’t have as much knowledge as them.
2) Practice and Worship: When people look down on those who may not be practicing their faith. They also look down on those who sin and feel like they are better than them.
3) Lineage: People who come from a noble lineage/tribe look at those who come from a lower tribe with scorn and behave as if these people are here to serve them.
4)Wealth: Allah describes wealth as a fitna in the Quran. So it can be used for good or it can cause harm. Someone who is wealthy may start to look down at those who have less.
Qualities of a person who has Pride
1) Likes people to stand up for him
2) Wants others to walk behind him
3) Believes that he doesn’t need to visit people only that people should visit him
4) Doesn’t want others to be on his level
5) Does not help in chores
The opposite of pride is humility. The prophet (saw) was always humble.
Cures of Pride
1) Realising the greatness of Allah and realising the weakness of man.
2) Contemplate and reflect over the ayah and Hadith which speak about pride.
3) Think of others as better than you, it doesn’t matter who they are.
4) Increase in ibadah and seek refuge in Allah from this disease.
5) Surround yourself with people who remind you of Allah and of your place.
6) Engaging in chores
When you see someone who is older than you; think they’re better than you because they’ve had more time to do good.
When you see someone who is younger than you; think they’re better than you because they’ve had less time to commit sins.
Hope this has been of benefit, my next post will cover backbiting.