Mind your own business 

Don’t you just hate it when people are so nosey they just have to know everything. From what you are doing to where you are going to what you plan to cook, to private life decisions like when are you going to have children! I just don’t get it, I’m so busy I don’t have time to worry about knowing every detail about what others are doing and I don’t understand how they have so much free time to worry about these things!

When we invade peoples privacy and insist on knowing every detail of their life we are doing nothing but damaging our relationship with that person. People start to avoid those who keep asking private and personal questions as it’s so difficult to stop them from asking questions. By doing this you will do nothing but cause family and friends to distance themselves from you. We need to learn how to mind our own business and not interfere in other people’s lives. Contrary to popular belief you do NOT have the right to know every detail of other people’s lives whether they are family or friends. If they choose not to tell you then you should respect their privacy. 
From the sunnah of the prophet (saw) we can learn so much about how he lived, good etiquettes and manners and there is never a time when he would be nosey and try to find out personal details. He in fact taught us to mind our own business.

He (saw) said: “part of the perfection of a believers faith is his leaving alone that which does not concern him”
Tirmidhi 

There are plenty of things we can discuss in social situations aside from a persons private business. And if a personal matter is discussed then it should be kept a secret and you should never then go and discuss this with a third person. Once we start delving into people’s personal matters this can lead to a lot of other sins such as gossiping, backbiting, slander etc. we should instead seek to discuss something beneficial or keep things general and lighthearted. This will help to keep good relations with those in your life inshaAllah
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What can you do in one minute?

This is something I found a few years ago and I’ve found it very beneficial especially as I’m so busy. Things that have huge reward but take only a minute to do.

  1. In one minute you can recite Soorat al-Faatihah 3 times, reciting rapidly and silently. Some scholars said that the reward for reading al-Faatihah is more than 600 hasanahs, so if you read it 3 times you will, by the permission of Allaah, gain more than 1800 hasanahs – all of that in one minute. 
2. In one minute you can recite Soorat al-Ikhlaas (Qul Huwa Allaahu Ahad) 20 times, reciting rapidly and silently. Reciting it once is equivalent to one-third of the Qur’aan. If you read it 20 times it is equivalent to reading the Qur’aan 7 times. If you read it 20 times in one minute each day, you will have read it 600 times in one month, and 7200 times in one year, which will be equal in reward to reading the Qur’aan 2400 times. 
3. You can read one page of the Book of Allaah in one minute. 
4. You can memorize a short aayah of the Book of Allaah in one minute. 
5. In one minute you can say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah wahdahu laa shareeka lah, lahu’l-mulk wa lahu’l-hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadeer (There is no god except Allaah alone with no partner; to Him be dominion and praise, and He is Able to do all things) – 20 times. The reward for saying this is like freeing 8 slaves for the sake of Allaah from among the sons of Ismaa’eel. 
6. In one minute you can say Subhaan Allaahi wa bi hamdihi (Glory and praise be to Allaah) 100 times. Whoever says that in one day will be forgiven for his sins even if they are like the foam of the sea. 
7. In one minute you can say Subhaan Allaahi wa bi hamdihi Subhaan Allaah il-‘Azeem (Glory and praise be to Allaah, glory be to Allaah the Almighty) 50 times. These are two phrases which are light on the lips, heavy in the balance and beloved to the Most Merciful, as was narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim. 
8. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When I say ‘Subhaan Allaah, wa’l-hamdu Lillah, wa laa ilaah ill-Allaah, wa Allaahu akbar (Glory be to Allaah, praise be to Allaah, there is no god except Allaah, and Allaah is Most Great)’, this is more beloved to me than all that the sun rises upon.” (Narrated by Muslim). In one minute, you can say all of these words more than 18 times. These words are the most beloved words to Allaah, the best of words, and they weigh heavily in the balance of good deeds, as was narrated in the saheeh ahaadeeth. 
9. In one minute you can say, Laa hawla wa laa quwwata illa Billaah (there is no strength and no power except with Allaah) more than 40 times. This is one of the treasures of Paradise, as was narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim. They are a means of putting up with difficulties and of aiming to achieve great things. 
10. In one minute you can say Laa ilaaha ill-Allaah approximately 50 times. This is the greatest word, for it is the word of Tawheed, the good word, the word that stands firm. If these are the last words of a person, he will enter Paradise, and there are other reports which indicate how great these words are. 
11. In one minute you can say Subhaan Allaah wa bi hamdih, ‘adada khalqihi, wa ridaa nafsihi, wazinata ‘arshihi, wa midaada kalimaatihi (Glory and praise be to Allaah, as much as the number of His creation, as much as pleases Him, as much as the weight of His Throne and as much as the ink of His words) more than 15 times. This words bring many more times the reward for other forms of tasbeeh and dhikr, as was reported in saheeh ahaadeeth from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). 
12. In one minute you can seek the forgiveness of Allaah more than 100 times by saying “Astaghfir-Allaah (I seek the forgiveness of Allaah). The virtues of seeking forgiveness are no secret, for it is the means of attaining forgiveness and entering Paradise, and it is the means of being granted a good life, increasing one’s strength, warding off disasters, making things easier, bringing rain and increasing one’s wealth and children. 
13. You can say a few brief and concise words in one minute, and Allaah may bring about some good through them that you could never imagine. 
14. In one minute you can send blessings on the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) 50 times by saying Sall-Allaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam (May Allaah bless him and grant him peace). In return Allaah will send blessings upon you 500 hundred times because one blessing brings ten like it. 
15. In one minute you can motivate your heart to give thanks to Allaah, to love Him, to fear Him, to put hope in Him, to long for Him, and thus travel through the stages of ‘uboodiyyah (total enslavement to Allaah). You could do this when you are lying on your bed or walking in the street. 
16. In one minute you can read more than two pages of a useful book that is easy to understand. 
17. In one minute you can uphold the ties of kinship by calling a relative on the phone. 
18. You can raise your hands and recite any du’aa’ you wish from the books of du’aa’, in one minute. 
19. You can say salaams to and shake hands with a number of people in one minute. 
20. You can forbid an evil action in one minute. 
21. You can enjoin something good in one minute. 
22. You can offer sincere advice to a brother in one minute.