Al Mustafa – The Chosen One part3

When the Prophet (saw) received revelation he was taken by surprise, this was obviously not something he (saw) had expected would happen to him. The angel jibreel came to him and told him to read.
The first ayahs revealed were:

Read. In the name of your Lord, who created.
Created man from a clinging substance.
Read. And your Lord is the Most Generous.
Who taught by the pen.
Taught man what he did not know.
Quran (96:1-5)

We can learn some important lessons from Allah choosing these ayahs to be revealed first. It shows that the essential element of our faith is knowledge. Knowledge is the key to salvation. These ayahs mention the pursuit of knowledge. How important must it be for us to always be trying to increase our knowledge?
When this was revealed to him (saw) he was left shocked and confused and the first person he(saw) went to was his wife, Khadijah. It was Khadijah that consoled him and knew that this was the truth. He (saw) didn’t feel as though he is worthy, but Allah knew that he was worthy. He (saw) had spiritual and intellectual humility.
The fact that he went to his wife and not his friends or other family members shows what an amazing relationship they had. He knew that his wife will be the one that will be able to calm him, she truly was the coolness of his eyes. Subhanallah.

Al Mustafa – The Chosen One part2

Attending a course while easy for the majority of us can be so difficult for others. One group of people who are barely given any opportunity to attend such courses are people with hearing difficulties. So Al Kauthar teamed up with an organisation called Al Isharah to provide an opportunity for those with hearing difficulties to attend. There was an interpreter there for them so that they could also learn and study like we can. 

And while I was sitting in the class and watching the interpreter I have never been more thankful for the blessings I have. To be able to hear clearly so I can attend whatever class I want. Not only that but I can attend jumuah wherever I live, watch Islamic classes online without difficulty, listen to the adhaan, things we often take for granted. For them it is completely different, there were students from all over the country who attended because they had the interpreter facilities. I hope these facilities are able to spread and increase as I could see just how much they want and need it.
One of the things that was just amazing was that we also were taught how to sign Prophet Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him. This was such a unique experience and it’s just so amazing to know as its one way to connect with my brothers and sisters who have difficulty hearing. We are connected through sending blessings upon our prophet, while attending a course about the Prophet (saw) no less! Just how amazing is that! SubhanAllah.

Al Mustafa – The Chosen One 

This weekend has been one emotional experience subhanAllah. I spent the weekend attending an Al Kauthar course called Al Mustafa The Chosen One. It was a course about the Prophet (saw) and spending the weekend learning about his life and the person that he was has made me love him even more. Sitting there hearing how he was with his companions made me wish I could be there with him, to spend even one day with him. But it wasn’t just a seerah course Shaykh Yahya Ibrahim taught us practical ways that we can implement his sunnah into our lives and in doing so be closer to him and Allah and become better Muslims.
As I benefited so much I thought I would share what I learnt so you could all benefit and know him (saw) a bit better. As there is so much I want to share I will do it over several blog posts inshaAllah.
After we say Prophet Muhammad we always say peace and blessings be upon him. And one of the first things we learnt was the many reasons why we say it. So I thought I would list a few here:
  1. Responding to the order of Allah
  2. Doing what the Angels do – it is an angelic quality to send blessings on him
  3. Every time you say it, 10 blessings come back to you
  4. It erases 10 of your sins
  5. It increases the likelihood of your personal dua being answered
  6. It safeguards against poverty
  7. It is a means of obtaining and retaining Allahs mercy
  8. It is a means of being physically closer to him on the day of judgement
  9. It compensates for your inability to give in charity
  10. It raises you 10 levels of where you will be in life

SubhanAllah these are just some of the reasons why we should send blessings upon him (saw). Just by saying a few words of blessings upon him we get so much benefit from it too.

We then went onto learn about his physical appearance and subhanAllah could a man be any more beautiful?
Just like everything else in his life his appearance was completely in balance. He was neither too tall or too short. He had dark black eyes and long eyelashes. He was neither white nor tanned. His body was well built, not skinny nor plump. The first thing everyone noticed about him was his eyes and his face shone like the moon. It is reported that it actually radiated light, subhanAllah. His body had a beautiful scent and his sweat smelled like musk. He neither walked too fast or too slow and he stood straight but not proud or slouched. He knew when to speak and when to be silent. He was a man of wisdom. How I wish I could see for myself how he looked after this discussion.
As impressive as his appearance was, his manners and characteristics were just as impressive. Even before he was given revelation, which was actually two thirds of his life he had special qualities which made him well known by everyone as the the truthful and trustworthy. He was always stood up against any injustice and inequality. He would never engage in any distasteful behaviour, helped the poor and needy, never lied or broke a promise. This was due to his strict adherence to justice. And he never submitted to anything aside from Allah, he would never take part in idol worshipping or any of the common practices at that time.
He had such an amazing character that everyone knew they could go to him and he would always give fair judgement using great wisdom.
Oh how I wish I could meet him. May Allah allow us to meet him in Jannah. Ameen.

My hijab My choice

This was something I wrote a while back and I thought I would share it here.

Having grown up in England I knew that there will always be people who would not know what hijab meant and many view it as oppression to women. I was however, lucky enough to grow up in a multi-cultural environment where a girl wearing the hijab was normal to see. So I didn’t know that people may react negatively to my hijab until I started university.

My hijab is so much a part of me that I feel naked without it, but it does come with its own challenges. I faced my biggest challenge when I started university, studying Physiotherapy.

In a class full of non-Muslim students who didn’t really know what the concept of hijab was or why I wouldn’t wear shorts or pairing up with boys to practice the treatment techniques we learnt in the class I often felt left out and somewhat uncomfortable. People were awkward around me and I didn’t feel like I belonged in this class. But I was determined to become a physiotherapist whilst still maintaining my hijab.
As the course progressed, my classmates became used to seeing me and the way I dressed so I wasn’t so much of a strange sight anymore and they became more comfortable around me. I was so glad, Alhamdulillah, that I hadn’t been tempted to compromise my hijab to ‘fit in.’ I had been able to maintain my hijab, gain more confidence and still complete my degree. Especially coming from a Pakistani background where many people think physiotherapy is an inappropriate career for a Muslim girl due to the university environment and professional requirements.
There are a few things that I had to remind myself time and again, and helped me get along in a totally challenging environment.
• Be confident in wearing and maintaining your hijab, it is a gift from Allah.
• Discuss with the tutors your hijab at the beginning of your degree to get rid of any concerns you or they may have.
• Be strong and try not to compromise your hijab out of fear that you may be seen as strange and not fit in. Remember the hadith of the Prophet (saw)
“Islam began as something strange and will revert to being strange as it began, so give glad tidings to the strangers.” (Muslim).
• If you respect your hijab, so will the tutors and your classmates.
• Discuss the hijab with your classmates to help them understand and remove any misconceptions they have. Provide them with leaflets or booklets..
• Study and learn about the hijab, why you wear it, how you should wear it. It will help to maintain your hijab and even teach others about it. Remember it is not just a piece of cloth that covers your hair.
• Join the Islamic society at your university, they can help and support you throughout your university life.
• Constantly renew your intention of wearing hijab. Remind yourself what you’re wearing is for the sake of Allah and it will insha Allah become easier for you to maintain your hijab.

We plan and Allah plans

SubhanAllah there is Wisdom in everything that happens to us. We may not see the wisdom at the time and but we need to Trust in Allah because He knows whats best for us even better than we know ourselves. Our sight is limited so only He knows what is truly going to benefit us. Allah always answers our Dua but in the way that is better for us not in the way we want.

We plan and Allah plans and Allah is the best of planners.
Quran (8:30)

We need to have tawakkul in Allah, really and truly believe that Allah will give you everything you need at the best time for you. But this does not mean that we do not strive to do things in life. We can’t just say  for example my exam results are upto Allah so I don’t need to revise. We still need to study but trust that Allah will give us the best grade for us.
Tawakkul is an act of the heart, it’s not act of the limbs. We should have full trust in Allah but we still need to strive.
Like when Musa (as) was standing in front of the Red Sea and Firawns army was behind him, his people thought they could not survive this. But he had full trust in Allah and told his people that Allah will never leave him. Allah told him to strike the ground with his staff and the sea parted. Did the staff make the sea part? No. It was Allah, but he still had to strike the ground.
I truly believe that everything happens for a reason and it is always good for us. I can look back at times in my life where I thought everything was going wrong and see that without that happening I would not be where I am today. This is what the prophet (saw) taught us.

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.”

If we truly trust Allah no matter what situation it will always be good for us, in the dunya and the aakhirah.


Read! In the name of your Lord, who has created (all that exists) 
Quran (96:1)

“Iqra” the first word revealed by Allah to our Prophet (saw). Read, how important can this word be if it’s the first word chosen in the whole Quran to be revealed? I don’t think we appreciate how important it is for us to read, to study, to learn. A man who could not read or write was given the command to read. Not worship me, or go into sujood but to read! 

If we do not read and understand and learn then how can we follow the commands of Allah? How can we truly worship Allah correctly? 
The more you learn the more your worship improves. I know this is true for myself, the more I study Islam, attend classes and read books I feel a stronger connection to Allah. But it’s not only Islamic knowledge we should increase in, we live in this world so we do need knowledge of this world too. Studying so we can live decent lives and get good jobs to provide for our families. And an education doesn’t only mean you have a degree but also studying should also include us learning to have good etiquettes and manners, we should learn how we should be with others , in different situations. We should learn how to live in harmony with our spouse and how to raise our children. There’s so many things for us to learn. My mum always told me growing up that there is no use of a degree if you cannot even maintain good relations and have good etiquettes and manners. My mum ensured we learnt both Islamic and academic knowledge yet also how to actually live a good life too. She also instilled in me and all my sisters the love for reading and studying. Even though I have finished my degree, I still love to study and take every opportunity I can to attend classes to further me in both Islamic and academic knowledge. I will always be thankful for my parents taking us to the library and not only encouraging us to study but to love studying.
During my studies my mum taught me a dua to read to help us, 

“My Lord increase me in knowledge”
Quran 20:114

Although while I was young I read it, asking Allah to help me but looking at this dua, it is such an amazing dua. It is short and easy to learn and it doesn’t just say to make it easy for you learn but it is a dua asking Allah to give us more knowledge. Not just help us to memorise things for an exam but to give us more understanding of what we are studying. SubhanAllah. It is one of the few things that Allah commands us to increase it. That alone should give us an indication of the importance of studying. Looking through Islamic history you can see that while the ummah studied they increased in all areas, from Fiqh, Hadith, Tafsir, to physics, astronomy, math, biology and much more. They made groundbreaking discoveries in the dunya and were careful to adhere to the commands of Allah. If they could do it then so can we inshaAllah.
And lastly I think it’s so important for us to study because one day we will have our own families and how can we teach our children, the future of the ummah, if we ourselves have not learnt and studied these things before? 

Are you ready yet?

Far too often i hear people say, i am not ready. I am not ready to wear hijab, to stop listening to music, to stop talking to this guy etc. But the question that always comes to mind is when will you be ready? We are not promised a certain amount of time in the dunya so we should not procrastinate in controlling our desires and giving these things up for the sake of Allah. Procrastination is a trick of shaytan. He wants to delay you in doing good deeds and following the commands of Allah. This was his promise to Allah. So don’t listen to his waswasah. And know that Allah is always there, all you have to do is take that first step.

Allah (God) says: “Take one step towards me, I will take ten steps towards you. Walk towards me, I will run towards you.” Hadith Qudsi.

Allah will guide as long as you want the guidance. So take that first step. Throw away your cds, delete his number, take that scarf out of the cupboard and know that Allah is with you every step of the way. And if He is beside you then who can oppose you?


How can I describe who he is? This man who came with a message from God and changed the world forever. How is it possible that I can have so much love for him without ever meeting him?
Do you know that the very people that hated him and wanted to stop him from spreading the message of God called him the truthful and trustworthy?
Did you know many people became Muslim just through his excellence in manners and noble character?
With all this hatred at the moment I wanted to clarify who Muhammad (pbuh) is. It is so painful to see all this hatred for someone so beloved to me especially when they don’t even know who he was. What did he spend his life doing? How did he live? What type of person was he?
He was a man that taught racial equality, social justice, economic equity and women’s rights.
He was kind and never harsh or rude. Despite others constantly insulting and being rude to him. He always took the middle path and was never extreme in doing too much or too little.
Even though he went through so many hardships in his life, he was known as the smiling one, who always laughed and made others laugh and smile too.
He was a man who never hurt anyone and cared so much for everyone around him, that he would pray constantly for them. His concern was always for others. He taught us to treat others how we, ourselves, would want to be treated.
Due to his character and manners those around him loved him and even those who were against him were only against him because they did not want to follow his message. His neighbour would throw rubbish on him when he walked past but when she was ill he went to visit her and treated her with kindness.
I can just go on and on about him but I would be here forever. He is so beloved by all the Muslims in the world, I love him more than my parents, my husband, my friends and all you have to do is read about him to know why.
I will leave you with this short video…

The Youth of the Cave

In surah Kahf, Allah specifically mentions that the people of the cave were in their youth. Allah does not normally mention these types of details this so it is something significant. Allah wants us to know that they were youth for a reason. 

These were people who lived in a time where disbelief was prevalent and they were among the few believers. They were firm in their belief and did not give in to society pressure. Despite their lives being threatened they still held onto their faith. So Allah rewarded them for it. They were saved from the tyrannical ruler and when they returned home they found people who could openly practice their belief. Allah made them examples for us to follow by speaking about them in the Quran.

It is We who relate to you, [O Muhammad], their story in truth. Indeed,
they were youths who believed in their
Lord, and We increased them in guidance.

And We bound [i.e., made firm] their
hearts when they stood up and said,
“Our Lord is the Lord of the heavens
and the earth. Never will we invoke besides Him any deity. We would have
certainly spoken, then, an excessive

Quran (18:13-14)

The youth today should take from this and realise that they should not be worried about conforming to society, rather if they stay firm on their deen then Allah will surely save them and reward them. Just like He did for the people of the cave.

Things we were never taught about Marriage 

Having recently gotten married me and my husband realised just how much more there is to marriage than we realised. That marriage is much more difficult than any single person could imagine. It takes such hard to create a strong marriage. So we decided that we would attend an Islamic marriage course. It has alhamdulillah taught us a lot, things we didn’t even realise we were doing and things we learnt we should be doing instead. So I thought I would share some of the things we learnt. This class was taught by Ajmal Masroor:

Marriage is a journey of two people, not a lonely path, with a loving, kind and supportive companion. 

They are your garments and you are their garments. (2:187) This ayah tells us that it is an intimate relationship between two equals.

A garment protects us and hides our faults from the world. Just like our spouse should do.

The quranic notion of a garment is about protecting friendship, beautifying companionship and intimate partnership.

Neither spouse is perfect but they fit perfectly together like a garment fits you perfectly.

The male is not like the female (3:36) We are different and we need to know the differences. But we should compliment each other not compete with each other.

We should accept that our spouse is different and not insist on them being exactly the same way as us.

We need to be emotionally mature to have successful relationships. Emotional intelligence is the ability, capacity, skills to identify, assess and manage the emotions of ones self, of others, and of groups.

In islam emotions are given their due place (neither extreme is encouraged) and they are part of our soul. Islam encourages us to be wise and strong and be in control of our feelings.

Emotional equilibrium is a state of submission, sakinah and taqwa as well as between fear and hope.

Love is not a noun it is a verb. Love must come with action.

Allah gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth therefore we should listen twice as much as we talk.

Say what you mean and mean what you say.

The in laws have NO rights over the daughter/son in law. Anything that the daughter/son in law do for their in laws is out of her/his kindness. The in laws cannot make any demands or insist that the daughter/son in law do anything for them. Only their own child has an obligation to look after them.

Its not just what you say but how you say it. Body language, tone etc are also part of how you communicate with your spouse.

When your spouse is speaking to you give them your full attention. Look at them, put away your phone etc and listen to what they say to you.

Dont let misunderstandings develop always clarify and dont leave things hanging.

You dont know whats in their heart. You cannot judge their intentions.

We must practice what we preach. You must do what you expect your spouse to do.

I hope these are of benefit to others as they have been for us.