Read. In the name of your Lord, who created.
Created man from a clinging substance.
Read. And your Lord is the Most Generous.
Who taught by the pen.
Taught man what he did not know.
- Responding to the order of Allah
- Doing what the Angels do – it is an angelic quality to send blessings on him
- Every time you say it, 10 blessings come back to you
- It erases 10 of your sins
- It increases the likelihood of your personal dua being answered
- It safeguards against poverty
- It is a means of obtaining and retaining Allahs mercy
- It is a means of being physically closer to him on the day of judgement
- It compensates for your inability to give in charity
- It raises you 10 levels of where you will be in life
SubhanAllah these are just some of the reasons why we should send blessings upon him (saw). Just by saying a few words of blessings upon him we get so much benefit from it too.
My hijab is so much a part of me that I feel naked without it, but it does come with its own challenges. I faced my biggest challenge when I started university, studying Physiotherapy.
We plan and Allah plans and Allah is the best of planners.
The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “How wonderful is the affair of the believer, for his affairs are all good, and this applies to no one but the believer. If something good happens to him, he is thankful for it and that is good for him. If something bad happens to him, he bears it with patience and that is good for him.”
Read! In the name of your Lord, who has created (all that exists)
“My Lord increase me in knowledge”
Allah (God) says: “Take one step towards me, I will take ten steps towards you. Walk towards me, I will run towards you.” Hadith Qudsi.
It is We who relate to you, [O Muhammad], their story in truth. Indeed,
they were youths who believed in their
Lord, and We increased them in guidance.
And We bound [i.e., made firm] their
hearts when they stood up and said,
“Our Lord is the Lord of the heavens
and the earth. Never will we invoke besides Him any deity. We would have
certainly spoken, then, an excessive
Marriage is a journey of two people, not a lonely path, with a loving, kind and supportive companion.
They are your garments and you are their garments. (2:187) This ayah tells us that it is an intimate relationship between two equals.
A garment protects us and hides our faults from the world. Just like our spouse should do.
The quranic notion of a garment is about protecting friendship, beautifying companionship and intimate partnership.
Neither spouse is perfect but they fit perfectly together like a garment fits you perfectly.
The male is not like the female (3:36) We are different and we need to know the differences. But we should compliment each other not compete with each other.
We should accept that our spouse is different and not insist on them being exactly the same way as us.
We need to be emotionally mature to have successful relationships. Emotional intelligence is the ability, capacity, skills to identify, assess and manage the emotions of ones self, of others, and of groups.
In islam emotions are given their due place (neither extreme is encouraged) and they are part of our soul. Islam encourages us to be wise and strong and be in control of our feelings.
Emotional equilibrium is a state of submission, sakinah and taqwa as well as between fear and hope.
Love is not a noun it is a verb. Love must come with action.
Allah gave us 2 ears and 1 mouth therefore we should listen twice as much as we talk.
Say what you mean and mean what you say.
The in laws have NO rights over the daughter/son in law. Anything that the daughter/son in law do for their in laws is out of her/his kindness. The in laws cannot make any demands or insist that the daughter/son in law do anything for them. Only their own child has an obligation to look after them.
Its not just what you say but how you say it. Body language, tone etc are also part of how you communicate with your spouse.
When your spouse is speaking to you give them your full attention. Look at them, put away your phone etc and listen to what they say to you.
Dont let misunderstandings develop always clarify and dont leave things hanging.
You dont know whats in their heart. You cannot judge their intentions.
We must practice what we preach. You must do what you expect your spouse to do.